Equality of Motherhood, Home & Hearth & Career (i.e. the 1% vs. 99%)

 

If 9 times out of 10 children get their awesomeness from their mother, then on a scale of 1 to 100, 99% of children get their awesomeness from their Moms and 1% get their awesomeness from their Dads. There we go again with the 1% versus the 99%!

Of course, there is another take on 1% vs. 99% but it has nothing to do with the cuteness of kids.

  • 1% earns a higher income for the exact same work/job done by the 99%.
  • 1% puts the “final” stamp of approval on nearly all domestic decisions the 99% make.
  • 1% has a larger retirement account 99% of the time than do the 99%.

This leads me to the question of the century: Equality — how do we obtain it and how do we maintain it?

Since the late 1960’s I have witnessed the fight for equal pay in the workforce creep along at a snail’s pace. And although I am pleased with the progress women have made during the past fifty years, it surprises me that there is continued discrepancy. In the 2000’s I retired but before doing so I trained my replacement. Being privy to the company’s financial information I noticed that my replacement, certainly well educated, licensed and qualified to replace me, had a new hire income at a much higher percentage than I’d expected to see. I also noticed another perk he would enjoy every week during little league baseball season which left me speechless. Now let me say, and make it clear, that I admire anyone willing to coach a little league team for it is an awesome thing to do but having paid time off from work for doing so didn’t sit well with me.  I thought about all the Dads (and Moms) without such a generous employer benefit breaking a sweat as they rushed onto the field after work in time to coach. Before you leave me a comment, i.e. sour grapes, let me say I did not coach little league; I did not need any “paid perks” and never asked for any. It simply struck me odd that my replacement, with the same qualifications as me, was beginning employment with a package that seemed, to me, exceptionally less equal to the one I enjoyed.

It is not in my nature to be combative but is in my nature to be diplomatic so when opportunity presented itself I didn’t back away. That opportunity came when my boss commented to me: “of course you noticed the new hire salary”. Umm – I cook the books – bake the payroll – save your ass from regulatory boards – so, “yes Sir, of course I did” and I went into diplomacy mode.

This is what I learned: One, my replacement valued himself and asked to be valued in return because (1) education, (2) experience and, (3) he was, according my Mr. Boss, providing for a family. By the way, providing for a family is a small item left out during most 99%’er’s negotiations because 99%’ers assume it is not important to mention. It is! Letting Mr. Boss know your salary requirements are based on providing for a family is a smart negotiating point to make.  Two, he negotiated a better package by agreeing to give something back, in his case it was to offset time away during little league season by working an as needed Saturday morning. But, if my replacement was as good as I was at finishing tasks under budget and on time, and I had every indication he was that good, this as needed Saturday morning would never come to fruition which in turn meant he had made himself one sweet deal. How was he able to do this? He exercised his 1% advantage the 99% (me) never do and the 1% sitting across the bargaining table from him didn’t want to look like a slouch to another 1%’er.  So, my replacement (the 1%’er) began employment with more pay, less hours (during little league season) and a designated parking space which was being sectioned off with yellow stripes as I pulled out the lot on my last day!

I know you are dying to know: How much more pay? The answer is: Substantial – it was a significant 20% more, at the same age as me (give or take a few months) with nearly carbon copy qualifications (I graduated on the west coast on him on the east coast way back in the day).

On the home-front equality is muddled by the relationship one is in. Some work better than others as far as a balance in equality. But, most still have a traditional imbalance. By this I mean that when I was married we agreed to a set amount we could spend without approval of the other. My husband was more or less willing to abide by this rule but his 1% got the most of him most of the time and he simply needed to that final approval in all things non-related to the grocery store. So I’d work hard to find a good deal on – say a vacuum cleaner, which I might add I solely used – something needed to run the household but was under our agreed to amount to spend and still feel required to wait for his final approval. Talk about driving me crazy.  The need of my 1%’er to have the final say was a major factor in his not remaining my 1%’er.  1%’ers beware.

In the few instances I am aware of, which are few-few-few, our 1%’ers have the larger retirement fund. Reread the paragraphs about equal pay. This is a no brainer to the 99%’ers out there like me.

Equality is a fundamental right for the happiness, well being, health and success of all women.

 

Advertisements

8 thoughts on “Equality of Motherhood, Home & Hearth & Career (i.e. the 1% vs. 99%)

  1. Write more, thats all I have to say. Literally,
    it seems as though you relied on the video to make
    your point. You definitely know what youre talking about, why throw
    away your intelligence on just posting videos to your weblog when you could
    be giving us something enlightening to read?

    • because my dear this blog is for me to post “daily (random) thoughts about nothing (in particular)” i.e. whatever catches my eye that day, and as I have time to post. Usually I see something like a visual comic strip or a posted note/saying on another site that reminds me of something to rant about :) which I enjoy doing so I rant!

      I do have things to say, I suppose, but I don’t think very many folks really want to listen to me, truth be told. If they did I’d have a lot more folks reading this nonsense I post.

      Thank you for your interest though I do appreciate that you read my blog.

  2. I do not know if it’s just me or if perhaps everybody else encountering problems with your site. It appears like some of the written text within your content are running off the screen. Can somebody else please comment and let me know if this is happening to them as well? This may be a issue with my browser because I’ve had this happen before.
    Thank you

  3. I have gone ahead and included a hyperlink back to your website from one of my clientele
    requesting it. I’ve used your internet site URL: https://marylouisewehunt.wordpress.com/2012/11/08/equality-of-motherhood-home-hearth-career-i-e-the-1-vs-99/ and blog title: Equality of Motherhood, Home & Hearth & Career (i.e. the 1% vs. 99%) | Journaling A Marvelous Life — my daily thoughts about nothing to assure you get the correct anchor text. If you woud like to see where your website link has been placed, please contact me at: delorismchenry@animail.net. Thank you

  4. My partner and I absolutely love your blog and
    find the majority of your post’s to be just what I’m looking for.
    Do you offer guest writers to write content for yourself?
    I wouldn’t mind creating a post or elaborating on a number of the subjects you write with regards to here. Again, awesome web log!

    • Thank you so kindly. Sure you can guest write but I’m not that savvy with how that works so, if you don’t mind, I’ll need some hand holding. I find that on the days I have nothing to say I do not post; then on the days I do I sometimes like to make it short and sweetly to the point! No need to badger the kind folks who take time to read my nonsense.

      You can reply here about doing a post or email me at mlwehunt@gmail.com …. By the way: exactly where do you live?

  5. Hello! I hope you don’t mind but I decided to publish your weblog: https://marylouisewehunt.wordpress.com/2012/11/08/equality-of-motherhood-home-hearth-career-i-e-the-1-vs-99/ to my online directory. I used, “Equality of Motherhood, Home & Hearth & Career (i.e. the 1% vs. 99%) Journaling A Marvelous Life” as your website headline. I hope this is fine with you. In the event that you’d
    like me to change the title or perhaps remove it completely, contact
    me at lynmcconnell@inbox.com. Many thanks.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s